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The Discipline section of M. Scott Peck's The Road Less Traveled first deals with life's difficulties. He makes it clear that we all have problems and pain but we have to deal with it to get by and to make life less difficult. "Life is difficult... Once we truly know that life is difficult--once we truly understand and accept it--then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."(p.15)

The four main points of the Discipline section are delaying gratification, acceptance of responsibility, dedication to reality and balancing. These four points are referred to as tools to solve life's problems. By using these tools one is able to overcome

anything that life throws his or her way.

Delaying gratification as Peck puts it is "a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with."(p. 19) I feel Peck's point is to save the good things

for last so that you can always have something to look forward to and an incentive to finish whatever task is at hand. Good scheduling skills and the lack of procrastination are very important in delaying gratification.

Responsibility is very important in solving life's problems. Peck says that we must accept responsibility for a problem before the problem can be solved. This is a fairly self-evident statement; however, many people feel if they put the blame for all their problems off on other people that the problems with miraculously go away. Perhaps they are scared of the pain that the problem will cause, or maybe they just can't handle the stress of the problem. Peck goes on to make it clear that these unresolved problems with

eventually catch up to you. Peck then discusses how neurosis and character disorders deal with misplaced responsibility. This misplaced responsibility is either one extreme or the other. "The neurotic assumes too much responsibility; the person with a character

disorder not enough."(p. 35)

I feel that responsibility can be directly tied into delaying gratification. The three main problems I see with responsibility are people either denying the fact that a problem exists, taking too much responsibility for the problems that do exist, and knowing the fact a problem exists but putting of solving the problem. The latter of the three main problems is directly related with delaying gratification because it involves putting off the difficult things.

Dedication to reality deals with the ability to clearly see the reality of the world. Without this clear picture we have a false misconception of the way the world works. This also impairs us from being able to make wise decisions and determine the correct course of action. People that ignore reality ignore it because reality is scary and not easy to deal with. To have a true dedication to reality in Pecks words means "first of all, a life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination. We know the world only

through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it but we must simultaneously examine the examiner."(p. 51)

Peck describes the fourth and final tool of balancing as "discipline required to discipline discipline." Balancing requires a great deal of flexibility. Peck says that "extraordinary flexibility is required for successful living in all spheres of activity."(p. 64)

Balancing is difficult for many people because it involves making sacrifices. The act of giving something up, especially something helpful or pleasurable, is very difficult for many.


Peck defines love as, "The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."(p. 82) Peck breaks the definition of love down into five different things: love is a teleological definition, love is a strangely circular process, the unitary definition of love includes self-love with love for the other, the act of extending one's limits implies effort, and love has a distinction between desire and action.

Peck describes the act of "falling in love" as being "a specifically sex-linked erotic experience." He says this sexual orientation can be conscious or unconscious. I feel Peck is totally wrong. One can fall in love with someone and it not be related at all

to sex. He also feels that love is merely temporary which I also disagree with. In my experiences, the people I have been in love wt. I still love. This feeling never goes away. The need for their companionship goes away, but the feeling never leaves. He goes on to

tell us that there is no such thing as "romantic love," which once again I disagree with. Peck goes on to say that "making love" is actually not an act of love and that dependencyis not love either.

He makes it clear that to have a working relationship the two people must be

independent rather than codependent. "Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not love; it is a form on antilove... It seeks to receive rather than to give. It nourishes infantilism rather than growth. It works to trap and constrict rather than to liberate. Ultimately it destroys rather than builds people."(p. 105)

Peck also says that love is an action, an activity, not a feeling. Peck say that many people who feel like they are in love and act in response to the supposed feeling actually act in a manner of unloving and destructive ways. A genuinely loving person, he says,

will take loving action toward a person whether he or she likes them or not. Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. "The common tendency to confuse love with the feeling of love allows people all manner of self-deception."(p. 119) Love is the act of going the extra mile to make something work. He also calls it a form of courage. "If an act is not one of work or courage, then it is not an act of love. There are no exceptions."(p. 120) Primarily the work is the attention one gives to the one he or she loves. This attention includes "true listening." The courage comes into play because one should always fear the risk of loss, commitment, and confrontation.

Peck says that "love is separateness." He confirms that it is important to nurture one anothers spiritual growth, but one major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved. It is

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