At first the sting of the whip, and the reddening of her ass felt wonderful, but
Carrie knew that the pain would soon become unbearable, despite her stating
"refrigerator," her "safe" word. . .
Carrie's example shows us how important consent is in SM, or rather sado-
masochism sex play. The most obvious reason consent is important in SM play is
the risk of injury and the potential for unwanted danger is avoided. In addition,
with understood consent, trust is developed, making the experience more
enjoyable to the participants. Reasons for non-consenting play do exist, however
these occur only under certain circumstances. When dealing with SM, there is a
greater risk of injury and of danger than missionary position sex, simply
because of the dynamics of it. When an individual is being tied up the way in
which the ropes are tied, how a person is suspended, and whether or not the
person has revealed confidential information to be used in the scene all aid to
create a potentially dangerous situation. When in bondage, the struggles and
wriggles of your partner desperately trying to escape your teasing might tighten
a rope of poor quality and/or singularly tied around a wrist, creating major
veins to stop circulating . The danger might not even seem obvious until it is
too late. It is possible though highly unlikely that one could lose the usage of
one's hands. Often in SM sex, extremely intimate information is given to your
partner, for example a fantasy. If the fantasy involves play that mainstream
American society might not find acceptable, a deeper level of trust would most
likely be necessary. Many human beings have rape fantasies. Do they want to
actually be raped? The answer to me is very clear, absolutely not. The fantasy,
is not about the violent act that rape actually is. It is about control, that
control given to another, the feeling that there is no choice. The most
significant difference I know of between an SM rape scene and the real thing is
there is trust be it even if it is peoples unknown to each other and a third
party has set up the scene. There is a conscious giving of consent. A SM rape
scene, must have a great deal of consent. Many men (and some women) seek out
professional Mistresses, Masters, submissives, or someone who has revealed a
want or need to experience what they themselves enjoy. Someone whom they are
pretty much assured that there will not be trust problems, for example a
revealing of identities, as in the case of a high profile person. Also the play
is generally a place of comfort to experience what they truly enjoy and possibly
can not in their "real" life. With this type of relationship the trust often
needs to comes close to intuition coupled with a little time sharing what each
will and won't do. Consent to some degree is already given, yet even here it
needs to be established. The real difference is that play is often so removed
from participant's lives that it no longer affects their normal life. They are
not laughed at for wanting to choke on a beautiful women's high heel, whereas
their spouse would not hesitate in calling a mental hospital at the mere mention
of the thought. Disaster can still occur, for a "scene" cannot be written with
a signed approval (it can but the enjoyment that can only be found in
spontaneity, would definitely be lost). Yet, this very factor creates the
potential for millions of things to go in a direction unsafe for the people not
directing the action.
In any sexual engagement, my ultimate satisfaction comes from bringing my
partner to a most gratified state. To have him or her look at me with their eyes
begging for more without sound is indescribable. Knowing that they are there
for me; knowing that what I need for the scene to be great is a pushing of
thresholds more than ever thought ...
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